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Basically Complex

Posted in Present with tags , , , , , , , on November 4, 2010 by Shea Atkin

BASICALLY — adv

1.  In a fundamental or elementary manner

2.  In essence

 

COMPLEX – adv

1.  Composed of many interconnected parts; Compound; Composite

2.  Characterized by a very complicated or involved arrangement of parts

3.  So complicated or intricate as to be hard to understand or deal with

4.  (Psychology) A system of interrelated emotion charged ideas, feelings, memories and impulses that is usually repressed and that gives rise to abnormal or pathological behavior.

5.  A fixed idea; an obsessive notion

Definitions provided by:  http://www.dictionary.com

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Wow, that was a lot to take in!

I had this topic that I wanted to write about, then I decided to research the actual definitions and makes me even more affected by the thoughts I’ve got floating around in my head.

The way I feel/think often comes in the form of an oxymoron.  It’s a combination of parts, one simple–one difficult.  I don’t know if it’s like that for you, but it can be quite annoying or awesome–depending on the current mood.  I’m working on taking stuff back to the basics.  And by “stuff”, I mean almost everything.  In my nature– I complicate things unnecessarily and wonder why I’m so confused.  Then, I will take a step back and realize that if I would just take the emotion out of said situation, it would make “stuff” easier.

But that’s not how it usually goes down.

In my head it will, but then I often let my emotions rule the outcome.  Feelings aren’t facts, yet I do a great job of acting like they are–and an even better job of justifying my resentments.  How selfish is that?!  By actively working on my own basics ( i.e.– staying on my side of the street, taking personal responsibility, staying clear of judgement, being nice, being honest and present, having no ulterior motives) others don’t annoy me as much.  Amazingly enough,  I’m a handful all on my own and have plenty to work on to just be a decent, contributing member of society.

But, it seems that we all have our complexities too, huh?

This series of events that take their rightful place at the forefront of our mind.  Maybe they are tucked away in a really great hiding spot.  Whatever the case–we have our reason for why something that is so incredibly basic ,becomes complex.  Those little things called emotions completely complicate things. Well, for me at least.  So, what do I do about it?

I choose to default to the definition of BASIC (see above)

Basic is fundamental, foundational, essential.  Without it, I’m just an emotional wreck searching anywhere I can for what feels good at the moment.  For me, this is no way to live.  It’s complex, complicated, confusing and unproductive.  If I decide to go by my list of basics instead of letting my feelings indicate what my decision will be, my gut usually makes the right choice.  And the right choice is not usually what I want to do.  It’s usually the rugged, off-road, primal, difficult choice.  But by taking it back to the basics, it solves a very, very complex issue.  Letting go of justifiable resentments, not worrying about clearing the other persons side of the street, taking personal responsibility for my part of the wrong.  All things that require an extreme amount of humility, balanced with speaking from the heart and the willingness to accept the repercussions.  The reward is indescribable and the freedom is deafeningly amazing.

In essence, we wouldn’t have one without the other.  But what is even more important that I learn–is to find the balance in both.

 

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